Just be honest

You've recently been asked to give a presentation. 

Immediately, the alarm bells go off in your head.

You think,

I don't want to go up there.

I don't know what to say that will be funny.

I don't want the pressure on me right now.

I don't feel like faking my mood.

I don't like performing.

I don't... I don't... I don't…

Well, first of all, those “I don't” thoughts are your mind’s built-in protection mode to stave off the fight-or-flight response to potential harm (e.g., the audience reacting negatively and judging you poorly). Everyone, at least at one time or another, has similar thoughts.

But your brain’s harshest critic aside – you also carry something even more powerful that you should tap into when public speaking.

Can you guess what it is?

Yup – it’s your authentic self.

Find out why and how.

01. Tap Into and Embrace the Power of Your Uniqueness

Here’s the easy truth:

The best part of being you when speaking is that you have no competition.

This assertion may seem contradictory in a world where comparison and competition are common, but actually, it's about understanding that each person is unique.

When you speak to an audience, you bring with you a tapestry of experiences that is wholly yours. In this sense, your individuality becomes your greatest asset as a speaker.

And guess what? 

Authenticity is what truly captivates audiences.

People like it when you're genuine and honest, not trying to be someone else.

Don’t try to emulate the speaking style of others or conform to arbitrary standards of success - waste of time.

It’s easier to be you, than to be anyone else.

Here's how it works.

Are you typically soft-spoken? 

Perfect! Your calm and gentle demeanor can be incredibly engaging, creating an atmosphere of attentiveness and sincerity. Your quiet confidence draws listeners in, encouraging them to lean in and actively listen to what is being said. Use your soft tone to convey empathy and understanding, making your message more relatable and impactful.

Are you skilled in storytelling? 

Awesome! Who doesn't like a good story? Harness this skill to engage your audience, weaving personal anecdotes and narratives. Use storytelling to illustrate key points, making your message more memorable and compelling.

Are you typically more of a serious type? 

Wonderful! Your thoughtful demeanor and focused delivery can exude gravitas and authority, lending credibility to your message and conveying the subject's seriousness. You can also leverage your seriousness to inspire trust and confidence in your expertise, making your message more persuasive and impactful.

Are you a passionate speaker?  

Well, this one is a no-brainer… your enthusiasm ignites excitement and motivates others. Engage with your audience emotionally to build rapport and inspire action.

Quirky? 

Super fun! Quirky speakers think outside the box, delivering innovative and original presentations that stand out. You build authenticity and trust by sharing your quirks and vulnerabilities, fostering deeper connections with the audience.

Unsure your demeanor? 

Experiment with speaking techniques that work for you, aligning to your natural strengths.  Whether it's storytelling, humor, or personal anecdotes, choose methods that feel genuine to you and leave a lasting impact on your audience.

Embracing your uniqueness as a speaker may not be easy. Society often imposes rigid standards and norms that pressure individuals to conform and suppress their authentic selves. You can submit to that and continue with the “I don't…” mentality, or you could embrace your individuality, to speak your best you.